For a long time I was miserable about my condition, but then I met similar people and the thing I studied was this is no time to waste, God has a plan with all.. It was time of realising something that've changed me again. Choice was mine, whether remain being a disabled, like a patient forever or decide to live quiet normal. And all my wellwishers helped me even if there was some greatest beat I got is from the so called community. Many, thought (still thinking) that there is a problem, and they just stand by in case I need any help. But there are a few who go overboard and try to do something. And there are others who automatically associate your physical disability with a mental problem. When that happens, I get very angry inside, because the two should not be associated. There are always people who don’t want me to lead a normal life!
The biggest change in my life since the accident has come in my attitude towards other people. I know now why there are such things as sharing. Before the accident I didn’t really have to deal with people. I could go off by myself and do whatever I wanted, so people didn’t really have any control over my life. Now I have to be conscious of people with me. I have to understand what they expect, and I have to take that into consideration whenever I want to do something. There must always be compromises and adjustments.
I find that people have some very funny myths about disabled people. For one thing, they think that people like me are fragile- physically and mentally (emotionally). I find just the opposite, that most disabled people are healthier than the general population. If we neglect our health, then we have nothing to fight back with. Disabled people are constantly adjusting on a daily basis to difficulties that many people face only in a crisis. So who are the sheltered people in our society?
To continue with my story, I made 1st step, bought a computer and started learning by myself. Please check My Profile to know what all I learned and now working with. Some friends helped, then learned to drive, and found a soulmate too... the best thing that hapend to me! We were friends forr a long time and later.. we've became one. Now its almost one year, after our marriage. Everything was happening like all pre-written, I just flew with the wind.
Nothing can disturb me greatly because I’ve been adjusting to them every day of my life. Even if I can usually think, feel, and react along the lines of normal people, yet people expect to react differently. It’s funny too because I’ve never considered myself a disabled person. I hate the word and I am considering haunting the guy who invented the words “handicapped” and “disabled”. Tell me what’s normal. On my scale from 1 to 10 the fact that I have so many disabilities doesn’t even fall within the top five slots of what it is to be normal. I've realized that there is real joy in being responsible for yourself and in being accountable for your decisions.
I live in an ordinary house but have designed to be more accessible for the wheelchair.I didn’t feel negative about what had happened. I was very thankful that I could still do a lot of things that were important to me. My thoughts were, “Well, I can still think, I can hear and appreciate music, I can use computers, I caqn drive and I have the most understanding and supportive wife, family and friends”. Now the main job of mine is to give advice to friends. More and more people ask gor a suggestion, and for me its a pleassure to share thoughts. Replying emails of my friends / well-wishers have become an essential part of my life...